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  1. rosie1931
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    Good Afternoon Everyone
    Two months today, woo hoo!   Funny, 61 days ago I wouldn't have been able to last two hours, never mind two months without a smokey butt.  And if for some reason I had to go two hours, you would not have wanted to be around me, hehe.  As I've already stated, my reasons for quitting is the fact that so many around me are getting sick due to smoking-related illnesses.  Ironically, today, I will be going out with one of my best friends who is in that category.   Funny story, last year we went away to Cuba, and I told her on the plane, that once we landed, she had better be able to keep up with me, cause I was running once we landed (to have that damned cigarette).  Tell you what, she did keep up with me, and she rarely could!  Two freaking 50 plus women running across an airport, what a site that must have been.  I've avoided her for two months because she smokes, and I've been deathly afraid of a relapse if I see her.  Cross your fingers today.  Anyhow, she has been diagnosed with a blockage in her heart, due to smoking and will find out the extent and what has to be done, in early January.  She is still smoking.  Shake my head.  I won't use strong arm tactics, because it simply won't work.  But I do gently prod her from time to time.  Quitting smoking will be a realization that she will have to come to on her own, in her own time and in her own way.  She, as well as everyone else, will do it for herself and want it for herself.  Otherwise she will not succeed.  Have a great and smoke-free Saturday everyone!
  2. linda, quit coach
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    Hi Rosie1931,

    Congratulations for reaching your 2 months milestones! It’s awesome! It shows a lot of hard work, perseverance and determination. Keep going strong and keep celebrating your success. You are doing fantastic! We are very happy for you!

    We are sorry to hear about your best friend’s health condition. We wish her to get well soon. When she is ready to quit, we know that you’ll be there for her. You are such a great inspiration!

    Thank you for sharing your powerful and inspiring story with us!
  3. shazzan
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    08 Dec 2018 in reply to rosie1931
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    Congratulations Rosie!

    I never doubted that you would do it! I hope life treats you well and that your friend will be alright. She has you as an inspiration, and i think she will come around to realizing she has to quit. You can teach her the ropes, and make the journey easier for her. Allan Carr's book is still an option, available at the library. Just ask her to humour you and read it. It is a powerful book, and she will quit in all likelihood, even if she doesn't think so ! 
  4. rosie1931
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    10 Dec 2018 in reply to shazzan
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    Thanks Shazzan,

    No, it's better if I just keep quiet.  She actually got upset with me.  I have to leave her be.  Hopefully she'll get there in her own way and in her own time.  Probably the same as what most of us have done.  
  5. efreeman75
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    I think you're absolutely correct Rosie.  You have to be a friend first.

    I'm sure if we all think back, we can think of times when loved ones, friends, co-workers, etc., tried to nudge us into quitting.  I remember thinking often to myself that they just didn't understand what I was going through at that moment.

    Also, I think we'd all agree, to be successful, a successful quit must be personal and come from within.  "Willpower is part of a successful quit" - isn't that what the NRT's always say.

    Rosie, I hope you're friend decides for herself to quit, and when she does, I am sure you will be there to support and guide her through the journey.

    Oh, and congratulations on your 2+ months.  I knew you could do it!

    E
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