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Feelings and Distractions

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  1. kate r, quit coach
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    Quitting can often bring up a number of different feelings for people. Some common feelings include anxiety, sadness, anger, nervousness, irritability, and many others. These feelings can be linked to withdrawal, but also to our relationship to smoking. It is sometimes hard feeling these unpleasant feelings and to not reach for a cigarette and remind yourself of distractions.

    What feelings did you feel when quitting, and what worked best for a distraction when you were feeling that way?

    As an example, when someone is feeling sad, they might find comfort in cuddling with a pet. This might not be the best solution (or be helpful) if someone is feeling angry, though.

    Kate R

    Last modified on 01 Jul 2019 22:34 by kate r, quit coach
  2. atp
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    Kate,

    I found that the first few weeks of my quit I missed the ritual of smoking. It was something that was a part of everything I did. In a way I was mourning the loss of something that I thought was meaningful to me. It is hard to explain but there was a real sense of loss at first.  

    Those feelings changed as days became weeks and weeks became months and I started to feel healthier, and realize what a terrible addiction smoking was. Strange how something I was so addicted to, and so afraid to quit, now is something I regret ever starting in the first place. 

  3. treepeo
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    Hi Kate,

    Like atp, smoking was a ritual for me as well.  I smoked before and after I did anything.  When I was happy, I would celebrate with a smoke.  When I was sad, I would sit down, light up, and think about what was bothering me.  I always had an excuse to smoke.  But when I decided to quit, what I started to do was to ask myself, "What would a non-smoker do in this situation?"  And I realized that instead of having a coffee and a smoke, I could just have a coffee.  And after having a meal, when the cravings were really intense, I would open my computer and immerse myself in a game, or read a book I was really enjoying.  I also reached out for help from the people here on this site, or I would call one of my supportive sisters or a friend and talk through my feelings.  Or if the weather was decent, I would do some grocery shopping, or simply go for a walk.

    For me, distraction of any kind was key.  But I also really tried to look at my non-smoking friends and see how they handled different situations.  And then I tried to emulate them.
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