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So Doubtful of Success

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  1. uncertain#62
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    I have tried to quit smoking many times throughout my life.  I have used nicotine patches, gum, spray, willpower.  Nothing works.  It feels quite hopeless tbh
  2. sheza, quit coach
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    20 Sep in reply to uncertain#62
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    Hi uncertain#62, 

    Welcome to the community! And thank you for sharing your experience. I hear you, quitting can feel incredibly challenging, especially when it seems like you've tried everything.  First, I want to remind you that what you’re feeling is valid - quitting is tough, and many people struggle with it multiple times before they find the approach that sticks.

    The fact that you’ve tried so many methods shows how determined you are, even when it feels hopeless. That determination is a powerful strength! Sometimes, it can take trying new combinations of tools or getting extra support to make the difference. Have you thought about what triggers you most during your quit attempts, or what might have helped, even just a little bit?

    The good news is that you’re in the right place. This community is full of people who have felt exactly how you’re feeling now and have found ways to succeed and we're all here to support you. Remember, every attempt is a step forward, and you have the strength to keep going.

    Looking forward to hearing more from you! :) 
    Last modified on 20 Sep 2024 15:22 by sheza, quit coach
  3. cleo
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    Dear uncertain62
    I was very much like you in not successfully quitting (or wanting to even). However I’m on day 14 & am feeling strong. I thought about it for 2 months, got ready mentally (social situations, the times I enjoyed smoking etc.) & thought of things that would help distract me, keep my hands busy (for me, cross stitch but everyone has their own thing) & being ready to use nicotine patches. Then I set the date. 


    I only told my spouse & a friend beforehand - both as a warning I may be moody & would really appreciate the support. That was it. I told no one else until I’d quit. I also enrolled in 2 yoga classes a week (which again, works for me but everyone will have something that will reinforce a feeling of even more wellness, self-care). Maybe a walk, treadmill, what have you. Just a physical outlet that makes you feel ‘doubly’ good to your body & self. 



    Don’t for a second think I’m having a cakewalk with quitting- it’s tough, I have to get through specific cravings & craving times, etc. But somehow this pre-planned way has worked so far. I’m also a bit different in my thought process this time. Instead of saying ‘I’m trying to quit smoking’ I instead say, ‘I’ve quit smoking.’ Psychologically that little trick helps. 


    You are NOT ALONE. I’ll keep checking in for your posts. I have faith in you because I’ve been a smoker a long time. I ‘get it’s & how damned hard this undertaking is in action. Just know, if you really WANT to, you can do this! You have to want to then the little above things I did to prepare kind of fell into place. I know this: I will NEVER be able to have 1 puff, or 1 cigarette. I know myself & I’m an addictive personality for certain. Knowing yourself & being honest with yourself before you quit is really important (or it is for me). 
    Very best of luck uncertain62 
  4. suzeh
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    24 Sep in reply to uncertain#62
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    Hi there uncertain#62

    This is my first community post and saw your's...  I've thought many times about quitting and serious attempts once before. This time was different, although still new at this I am 60 days smoke free today.  but...it has not always been easy!  I was a smoker 35+ years and like you I wondered how am going to do this???!!  it's who I am! So along with not smoking I'm finding out who I am as a non-smoker. To be honest with you I still think about smoking but I have to remember why I've quit.. Good and bad days, like a lot of us here but have faith you will do this.  I remember the post about how it can take us sometimes 30 attempts?  
    Don't be too hard on yourself..you will find your way.  

  5. iam4ft12.0
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    I am in the same mind frame as you.   However we are all here to support each other.
    My Coach advised me to start with little changes and a mantra.
    Cigarettes/lighters in trunk of car
    I have been on Champix for 2 weeks now so Sunday is my 0 day.   Never say quit day, its 0 day!!!!

    Good Luck to you and I am sure you will succeed!
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