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Not new here but still trying 🙄

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  1. butterflyna
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    Have been really struggling with quitting for a very long time. I can manage to get some quit time together but always end up back smoking. Gotta trick my brain somehow. I recognize some people still on here. Great to see you all again (not really 😁) Sigh. 3 days now. One day at a time. Thx
  2. jenna lee, quit coach
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    16 Jun in reply to butterflyna
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    Hi butterflyna,

    Welcome back!

    It sounds like relapse prevention is an area of focus for this quit journey. Try to reflect back on past quit attempts and analyze the circumstances in which you went back to smoking. What worked? What did not work?

    Hope this helps, and congrats on day 3!

    Jenna Lee
  3. renee, quitcoach
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    16 Jun in reply to butterflyna
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    Hello and a warm welcome Butterflyna.

    How are you doing? Is there anything you find is helping you in your first few days of quitting?

    Renee
  4. gretchen
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    17 Jun in reply to renee, quitcoach
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    Hello....I need help please. I quit smoking old turkey May 13....I relapsed and had one cigarette June 7. I am going through horrible anxiety and headaches and mild depression....My head feels like it will explode and I cannot sleep. All of this just started June 17 1:08am! I do not know what to do? Should I go on Nicoderm patch to stop the anxiety and everything I am feeling? I know this is withdrawls....Please help
  5. treepeo1
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    17 Jun in reply to butterflyna
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    Hi butterflyna,

    Welcome back.  I know it's hard, but try not to get too discouraged.  Each attempt is a learning experience.  And you know what they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained.  If this were an easy journey, no one would smoke but alas, it is not.  It's a physical and mental addiction, and habit forming as well.  The important thing is that you have not given up, you are still trying.  As long as you do that, it will eventually stick.

    Try to figure out what is causing you to slip.  Once you figure that out, it will be easier for you to tackle it.

    When I was a smoker, it was a powerful physical addiction.  I mean, if I so much as had a candy, I needed a cigarette immediately afterwards.  My lungs used to ache like you wouldn't believe until I lit up.  I quit cold turkey, and I remember how much I suffered through that first hellish month.  But I realized that with each day that passed, my quit became more valuable.  For me, making it through even one day was nothing short of a miracle.  And I was determined to move forwards and not backwards.

    Celebrate each day you make it through smoke free, butterflyna.  You are changing your life for the better.  Be proud of yourself and be kind to yourself as well.  You can beat this lousy addiction.  Believe in yourself.  I am rooting for you!
  6. treepeo1
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    Hi gretchen,

    First, let me congratulate you for quitting.  You just happened to quit on my birthday, May 13.  And when you had a baby slip, you somehow managed to cut yourself off after having just one.  That tells me that you are really committed to making this quit last forever.  Good for you.

    I am sorry that you are going through such bad withdrawal symptoms now.  This addiction will do anything it can to get you back on board.  Don't let it fool you.  You have worked too hard to get to this point.  Resist, resist, resist.  The nicotine is out of your system now, so I wouldn't go on the patch if I were you.  Keep yourself nicotine free.

    Maybe you should discuss what you are going through with your doctor.  Your doctor may come up with some helpful suggestions.  Who knows, even a few minor tweaks to your diet might help you feel better and sleep more soundly.  It's amazing how much a good night's sleep can help in the recovery process.

    Also, please know that withdrawal symptoms eventually go away.  When they do, you will be able to start enjoying your new life as a non-smoker.  You will really start to enjoy the fact that you breathe easier, you smell better, and you have a lot more time to do things you enjoy rather than waste them on this rotten, expensive addiction.

    Hang in there, gretchen, and let us know how you are doing.  You are strong and determined and you can get through this hurdle.  Believe in yourself.
  7. butterflyna
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    04 Jul in reply to jenna lee, quit coach
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    Thank you Jenna. You are absolutely spot on! Relapse Prevention is the focus for now.
  8. butterflyna
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    Hi Renee, 
    Thank you for the warm welcome. I have relapsed again. I was around an old friend who smokes. I thought I could handle it but no. I am so very sick and tired of screwing up. Tomorrow at midnight is my new quit date. I need to just be alone I think to stay smoke free. This particular friend is a real trigger. 
  9. treepeo1
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    Hi butterflyna,

    Hanging out with people you always smoked with can be a real trigger for sure.  I used to hang out with two of my sisters who smoke.  Interestingly, when I quit, they were not at all supportive.  I think that was because if I quit successfully, they could no longer tell themselves that they couldn't quit because they had smoked all their lives.  After all, I smoked for over 43 years and I managed to quit.  Anyway, I realized that I had to focus on myself and my own goals.  And that's what you need to do, too.

    Kudos to you for not giving up.  Keep trying and you will get there.  This whole experience is a learning process.  None of us have all the answers.  We just keep trying until we get the job done.
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