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1. mom_of_3

   

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   30 Jan 2018

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   I relapsed with cigarettes for 5 days. My best friend passed away last Sunday and after the funeral on Wednesday I broke down and started smoking again after 24 days.
   Today I found another box of patches and I still have some gum. So it's day 1 for me again.

   Last modified on 30 Jan 2018 00:33 by mom_of_3
2. treepeo

   

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   Hi Mom_of_3,
   
   Sorry to hear you lost your friend.  I know how tough that is, having lost several myself.
   
   I am glad that after having slipped, you are getting on the bandwagon again.  One thing I have discovered during this process is that I had to learn how to deal with different situations without smoking, like I always had in the past.  Having resisted the urge over and over again, I have now started creating new memories for myself as a non-smoker.  So, for example, when I feel like I have done a good job with something and I deserve a break, I will have a nice cup of coffee, but without the cigarette.  At first it was really weird, but now it is just sheer habit.  So it is possible to change our ways.  Repetition helps!
   
   You quit for 24 days so you know you can do it.  Just take it one step at a time. 
3. clepage

   

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   Good morning mom_of_3
   
   I’m sorry to hear about your loss.  I lost a few friend in the last 10 years.  
   You worked hard to gain some 24 smoke free days.  And now you are on day 1 and congrats you.  Keep up the good work.  You can do it one day at a time.
4. marianne, quit coach

   

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   Hello Mom_ of_ 3,
   
   Very sorry to hear about your friend.  Stress (especially as you have experienced) is so difficult.  
   
   So great that you are able to set the date again.  Treepeo sharing their way of coping with situations makes sense.  You no doubt will find yours.  Anything that comes to mind yet?
   
   Along with other members giving you credit, certainly deserving 24 days.  Your on your way again.  
   
   We here for you!
   
   Marianne
5. brieffree

   

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   Dear mom of 3
   
   Sorry to hear that, is was just a very difficult time that trigger your addiction.
   Is good that you will go back to the quit zone.
   
   Congrats in 24 smoke free days 
   
6. ocean

   

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   Dear Mom of Three,
   I'm so very sorry to hear of the pain and loss you're going through.  I lost my dad 8 weeks ago when I had been prepping and reducing for my quit.  But taking care of him in the hospital those last weeks was a lot and the last thing I could take on was "thinking" about reducing and counting.  But like you, I was able to resume my quit once things had settled and were routine again.
   
   I think the best advice I can give is to stay tuned to the boards.  Even when I was running in and out, I would check in every few days and believe it or not, it saved me from postponing and the risk of putting it out of sight, out of mind.
   
   And after seeing the suffering, I realize how very lucky I am.  And that there's still time for us to reclaim our health.
   
   So do what you have to do to stay motivated and know we are here. 
   
   Sincerely,
   Ocean