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Breaking up is hard to do.

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  1. kibella79
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    First time on here. I’m into day five and feeling like it’s still day one. It’s been a rough and uncomfortable ride. I feel disconnected, in a brain fog and going through a breakup with a comfort buddy. 😩
    It’s so hard letting go and I know I need to but the temptation is strong. I know if I go back I’ll feel disappointment with myself, so I take a deep breath and keep looking forward. 😳

    22 🀬 years!!! 

    Here’s to hoping I’m the stronger one!
  2. efram, quit coach
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    Hi Kibella79. Welcome! Here's hoping that the days get easier for you soon.

    Typically the first week is the hardest, then little by little a person gets used to the changes, mentally, physically, emotionally, etc. Withdrawals are hard, but they do mean that healing is happening. And eventually one starts to notice benefits from not smoking! 

    That "comfort buddy" must have been causing enough discomfort for you to have made the decision to quit, eh? 

    You have the right mind-set: looking forward! There's so much to be gained. Please keep us posted, and know that we are all here for you! 
  3. kibella79
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    25 Jul in reply to efram, quit coach
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    Hi Efram. Thank you for the nice welcome to the club. It’s nice to have support when going through this. It really helps to get through the rough moments. 😊

    I made it to week 1 today at 1pm. Yah! πŸ₯³

    The week was challenging I must admit. I almost gave in on Saturday but I had mental “chat” with myself about all the work I’ve already put in being lost if I go back. I have good days and not so good days (can’t call them bad as I think it’s just more the habit that gets to me). 
    On the not so good days the craving gets so powerful (stress) that I want to run out for some but I decided to put the money where I can’t easily access it so it a deterrent for me.

    My quitting was definitely not planned. I didn’t have anymore “comfort buddies” and I didn’t feel like going out for more so I thought I’d see how long I could hold out before I gave in. 
    I think once I told by little brother what I was doing and hearing how proud of me he was (day 2) really made it hit home and I wanted to keep going. GUILT!! 🀣
    I celebrated my 1 week with him so it was a good day. 

    I have started to notice changes (smell, weight gain from eating and no cough). I’m okay with that as 2/3 isn’t so bad and I’ll lose the weight since I can now do the stairs without feeling out of breath. πŸ€—

    I’m looking forward to the days where I don’t get a craving for them anymore. It feels close but so far away. 

    Of course it too shall pass. 

    Here’s to another week of positive thinking, positive results!! 😁



    Last modified on 25 Jul 2021 23:58 by kibella79
  4. kibella79
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    27 Jul in reply to kibella79
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    As much as I seem so brave I’m breaking down. I just want 1  Everyone on here knows what  that’s like and seem so brave. I just keep reaching out to the people I thought was my support and their not there. 

    just 1 to get me through this.  No one is there. 

    I don’t know why I’m doing it any more 😫

    ive been reaching out for help but nothing! I guess I’ll keep doing it on my own. 
    Last modified on 27 Jul 2021 13:27 by kibella79
  5. sarah, quit coach
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    27 Jul in reply to kibella79
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    Thank you for reaching out here today, kibella79 - we hear you and we see you, and we are glad you did.

    Quitting is not easy, and as you said in your previous post, there are better days than others. Each day is a success, an accomplishment.
    You mentioned you are not sure why you are doing this any more. Earlier this week you documented some of the benefits of your quit so far right here on this thread, such as improved cough and smell, hearing words of pride from your brother. You have shown yourself that self-care and love and support you needed, know that you are showing up for yourself as you document this process, and that you are doing one GREAT job. 

    Continue to take it day by day - or hour by hour - if needed.
    We are here for you each step of the way.
    Take care
    Sarah
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