31 Dec 2018
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Quitting smoking in and of itself is stressful. You're going through physical and mental withdrawal, and a the same time trying to figure out how to live as a non-smoker. Self doubts when trying to quit are hard and they are a part of the mind's mechanism to keep you addicted. One thing I learned during my quit was that I didn't need to smoke to deal with stress, or to relax, or to enjoy the moment. Smoking didn't help with any of those things.
Good for you to do couples counselling. My wife and I have done it too and it has been the best thing we have done. Much as quitting smoking, you have to want to do it. If anything, by quitting smoking you are showing you are prepared to change. It becomes a whole lifestyle and attitude improvement.
You can also involve your partner in your quit. Talk to them about what you're feeling, the whole struggle of quitting, cravings, etc. It is amazing what other conversations come up when you open up about your struggles of quitting.