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1. chartippybum

   

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   07 Apr 2018

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   I woke up feeling very negative a full of anger. I am one month smoke free and usually i would calm my self by smoking but i am trying to think positively. Thank you all for your support tp help me get here. 
2. jennifer, quit coach

   

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   07 Apr 2018 in reply to chartippybum

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   Good Evening chartippybum,
   
   Thanks for posting this experience you've had today, know you are not alone - if you are feeling this then there are bound to be others in the same boat!
   
   You've mentioned that usually you would have calmed yourself with smoking, what can you do now? What might work to help calm you and take the place of smoking? Having options is one of the ways to boost your odds of staying smoke-free, sometimes our members also build little rewards into their quit plan, especially when they hit milestones like you have recently - one month!
   
   
   
3. chartippybum

   

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   08 Apr 2018

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   I feel better. I am trying to picture myself happy and healthy. I find doing the little things are more rewarding and i am greatful for stuff like drinking water and it tasting refreshing. I habe options to be alone when i am angry and writing it down or screaming into a pillow. Taking deep breaths helps. Its good to have a plan of action if it happens again. This week my aunt is coming over and shes a smoker so i will have to distract myself 
4. marianne, quit coach

   

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   08 Apr 2018

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   Hello Chartippybum,
   
   So happy for you that you are better, thank you for letting us know.  The power of visualization is remarkable isn't it?  You found the strategies that work for you which is key.  
   
   You are wise to think ahead of how to distract yourself when around your aunt who is a smoker.  Please share with us your plans to do so when you have something in mind.  Encouraging you to have that plan in place.  Always nice to brainstorm with others.  
   
   Have a wonderful week ahead, being grateful as you say!
   
   Marianne
5. treepeo

   

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   09 Apr 2018

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   Hi chartippybum,
   
   It may be difficult to be around your aunt if she smokes in front of you.  Can you ask her to step outside to have her cigarette?  
   
   When I go to my sister's place, she smokes in front of me.  These days, it doesn't really tempt me.  It just makes my chest feel tight and my eyes burn.  And when I get home, I have to change my clothes because I can't stand the stench of the smoke on them.  I won't have her over to my place, because I simply will not allow anyone to smoke in my apartment.  Man, have I ever changed!
   
   Do whatever it takes to stand strong when your aunt comes over, chartippybum.  Remember, you are doing something truly amazing!  You are quitting smoking!  And that is truly the best thing you can do for yourself.
   
   Good luck!
6. eagerquit

   

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   09 Apr 2018

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   Hi chartippybum,
   
   Congratulations on getting past the negative feelings with positive thoughts. The negative stuff always passes within minutes for me.
   
   Try telling your aunt about your smoke free journey shortly after her arrival. She might show appreciation for your progress and avoid smoking around you.
   
   Eagerquit